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Two Magical Words

Are there magic words that have real power more than the illusion? Yes. They are the centerpiece of every wedding. A man speaks and a woman speaks these two magical words and their whole world instantly changes. Have you spoken those two word, “I do”?

Speaking these two words causes an immediate change in the world for all to see and hear. To the unaware, things seem to stay the same; but to the well informed, nothing remains as it was.

As you speak these words, you are forever changed. A man becomes a husband. A woman becomes a wife. The transformation is instantaneous and progressive. You can never be the same as you were again.

How long does all of this to happen? Only as long as it takes to say, “I Do.” Dating ends. Courtship ends. Independence ends. Aloneness ends. Suddenly there is marriage, union of two into one, and completion.

One moment you were free to think only of your own welfare, but the next your own personal interests are subjugated to the interests of your marriage. One moment you could play the field, checkout every girl or guy that walked by; and the next moment you must never glance at another girl or guy in the same way again.

One moment you owned what you owned, and the next moment your partner owns half of everything you own. One moment you are in charge of your life, and the next your partner has a voice in the things you do, the things you say, the choices you make, the work you do, the place you reside, and the life you live. You are not your own. You belong to them.

Mystery, magic, miraculous, and breathtaking are all words that describe the force found in the words “I Do”. Yet, the meaning may still allude us, unless we realize that the magic comes from the hidden power of love.

“I do” what? – might be the most overlooked question answered by couples on their wedding day. Yes, they speak those words, but are they truly understood? Does a man really know what he is committing himself to? Does a woman grasp the full scope of these words? Maybe not, but they will soon find out or face deep personal struggles in the process.

When a man speaks the words “I do”, he is making some very definite promises of things he will do and not do. He becomes immediately obligated to his bride, to family, to friends, to society; to fulfill those promises no matter what. Even more he is entering into a legally binding contract to perform these things under penalty of law.

His pledge of faithfulness goes beyond superficial considerations of sexual promiscuity or the extremes of abandoning his wife for the affections of another. His pledge of faithfulness is one of tunnel vision wherein he refuses to think or consider any other woman than his wife for sexual relations.

The man promises to provide for his wife and family the vital necessities of life including food, shelter, clothing, and emotional support for the marriage to thrive. Yes, his wife can help, but he assumes responsibility for providing. He essentially pledges that he will sacrifice his own needs and interests for the benefit of his wife and family. He promises to listen to his wife and consider her needs above his own.

I have a car before the wedding, and half a car after the wedding. I own a house before the wedding, and half a house after I say “I do.” I possess a large screen TV, a surround sound stereo system, a motorcycle, and a house full of furniture before I repeat my vows; and afterward I own only half of these. My partner owns the rest.

The grooms says, “I promise to protect you from all harm in good times and in bad.” The dangers of the world are very real. Marriage and family often come under attack, but the husband stands as the valiant protector against all such threats whether from outside or from within.

The promises of the woman are similar and yet distinctively different. She pledges to give herself freely intimately to her husband to fulfill his sexual, social, emotional, and personal needs. She too pledges faithfulness and commits herself to intimacy only with her husband.

The bride says, “I will be a faithful companion to you. I will work alongside of you, walk with you, respect and honor you. Good times may come or calamity befall us, but I will always give you my life and my love.”

The promises entailed in the words “I do” go far beyond those mentioned her, and they have a way of deepening and expanding with passage of time and experience. Fundamentally, a man and woman pledge themselves to each other exclusively for every facet of their lives physically, emotionally, socially, economically, and every other way. Indeed, these magical words transform two individuals into one completed person for the rest of their lives. To learn more about the commitments and joys of marriage as well as find vast resources on marriage check out Wedding How. Com or see the resource box below.

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